WHY THIS COURSE

As for many things, there is no one-size fits all in parenting as well. There are no bad parents, and perfect parents don't exist either. But there are systems (the village) that impose us ways of doing, and is bombarding us with parentings advices, perspectives, various philosophies, judgmental looks and voices, etc..without taking into account our children’s real needs.

We want our child to be quiet in this queue at the supermarket, to sit and eat perfectly at a table...we just want them to BEHAVE because we, parents and care givers are feeling pressured and judged by our surroundings (the village). So yes, it takes a village and if we want it or not the village in a way is raising our children for us.

But instead of disciplining them, and being highly concerned by their behaviors, what if we cultivate connections with them?

Human beings long for connection, not just in the first few months of life but throughout life, and the center of connection is in our nervous system.

This course is not a new parenting philosophy, nor a way to become a perfect super parent, nor even to add an extra burden to parents, but rather to facilitate our parenting and help us embrace imperfection. It is a nervous system and somatic approach to parenting that aims to provide parents and caregivers with a variety of tools to understand their child's unique needs, develop a relationship, attune to them, build safety in their bodies, that will help them become more resilient in the village.

We will also examine and understand our own values as parents and carers, as well as how our heritages and cultures influence the way we raise children and how we can personalise our parenting, particularly when we live in another culture.

Becoming an honest parent is about learning to release the weight the village puts on us and dancing with "the mistakes". It's about learning to listen to our own nervous system, understanding and respecting it's capacity so we can be more present in bonding with our child. Being an honest parents is about facing our past to build a promissing the future.

WHO IS IT FOR

It takes a village, they said, so everyone with or without child, from any race, ethnicity, gender, age and social background could join this course, because we are always consciously our unconsciously participating in raising a human around us.

But also if:

• You are parents or caregivers who are interested in learning nervous system approach and somatic tools to support yourself and your child.

• You are parents who are willing to embrace honesty, courage and vulnerability in your parenthood.

• You are planning to become a parent or parents.

• You have an adopted child or are a foster family.

• Your children have already left home and you want to maintain the connection.

• You work with children and want to grow your somatic and nervous system toolkit.

• In general, this course is good for whoever wants to embrace imperfection and bring more presence, sensing and connection into their way of being with their little one.

• You want to know how four-legged and two-legged animals connect and how that helps build communities.

WHAT WILL YOU LEARN

• Understanding the village you have grown in and see how it's influencing your parenting today.

• Breathing techniques to care for your nervous system and your child’s nervous system.

• The power of co-regulation and attunement.

• Listening and honoring your nervous system capacity.

• The language of bodily sensations.

• Integrating breathing and somatic into their play and key moments of the day.

• Reducing shame, guilt and dealing with discomfort in the parenthood journey.

• The power of rituals to strengthen your bond with your child.

• Comfortably engaging in repair work.

• Cultivating your ventral vagal and our child’s.

• Building a relationship with your child that is unique to you and your child.

• Drawing resources and tools from your own culture and personal background.

WHAT ELSE WILL YOU GET

The course will be live on zoom, 10 Fridays in a a row starting from the March 15th.

You will also get access to:

• A platform where the replays will be available (Circle.so) for 6 months

• 2 FREE 1:1 sessions with Tobi

• Recorded Meditations to help process the sessions

• A workbook (A print version for EU residents and PDF version if you reside outside of EU)

• A FREE 1-year signal group access for support

• A FREE 1-year Monthly Community of Care & Practice meeting starting from June

• A non-judgmental space to embrace honesty and authenticity in parenthood.

COURSE CONTENT- 10 Fridays in a row

WEEK - 1 - OPENING CEREMONY - Theory and communal reflection on the village

WEEK - 2 - Honestly looking at our village's nervous system and how trauma shows up in our parenting today.

WEEK - 3 - Rethinking attachment theory: what was forgotten in the theory and how does it apply to today’s family

WEEK - 4 - Navigating and addressing shame & guilt in parenting

WEEK - 5 - Exploring nervous systems and brain waves: A comparative analysis in children and parents.

WEEK - 6 - Rethinking Children's Behaviors: A Deep Dive into the True Roots.

WEEK - 7- Delving into the power of connection: essential elements shaping childhood resilience.

WEEK - 8 - Harnessing the potency of repair and co-expansion (also known as co-regulation).

WEEK - 9 - Indigenous precepts and tools for cultivating relationships and fostering bonds between parents and children. Part 1

WEEK - 10 - Indigenous precepts and tools for cultivating relationships and fostering bonds between parents and children. Part 2 & CLOSURE CEREMONY